I always remember an old friend of ours telling us that when you have children (normally more than one child) there are three states of tiredness which you will experience most if not all of the time; tired, very tired and exhausted.
Another relative and mother of 6 tells of how she spent 15 or more years of her life being just plain tired. The tiredness is physical at times and often there is weariness of mind and emotion; that which comes after much discipline. Sometimes the discipline is followed by even more disobedience of the same kind on the child’s part right after you have ‘been through it all’ with them!
Refreshment of mind and spirit can be found upon your knees in prayer, and this is, as I am still learning, one of the most important ways of counteracting the inevitable stress which comes with ‘bringing our children up in the fear and admonition of the Lord’.
For a woman in particular, however, who is home alone with her children during the day all day long, I have realized that sometimes when I experience a break, away from the house perhaps with a friend or some valueble time on my own , I am so much more ready and able after this to face the battle and strengthen my reserve in the high calling which is motherhood.
A Pastor and friend recently voiced from the pulpit the often used quote that “the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world”, and oh how true it is – so how much more does this busy hand need a rest once in a while….
I would go as far as to suggest that it is imperative that a Mother and wife and homemaker (to name but a few of her God-given responsibilites) takes a ‘breather’ and goes away to recharge batteries, even if it’s only for a few hours. A cup of coffee. A walk. An hour with a friend or perhaps some extra time alone in the quiet while dear husband puts the kids to bed. A long bath-soak! I know I appreciate it when Tim realises I’m all tethered out!
Husbands who go out into the workplace every day are often so glad to get home! Sometimes the wife feels the exact opposite – and it’s not that she is being unthankful – but perhaps a breath of fresh air causes her to have just that extra bit of appreciation for where God has placed her as His servant, in the home as a ‘joyful Mother of children’ (He settles the barren woman in her home as a Joyful Mother of children. Psalm 113:9)
And husbands – after a few hours you will reap the benefits of a fresh-faced, smiling wife and maybe a five-course meal the following evening! :0)